Thinking about the deeply embedded misogyny of white feminists


Excellent and timely post from ApatheticAcademic on white feminism and the ways it excludes and alienates trans women, queer women and people of color.

Originally posted on I've Thought About It And...:

I’ve been thinking about this for a few months now; what to make of white feminists and the state of feminism in general. The erasure of women of color. The erasure of queer women. The deep hatred by many feminists of trans women. The willingness to participate in patriarchy to oppress other women or people of color. I was thinking about it in relation to my own conflicted feelings about feminism. Do I still call myself a feminist? Am I really a womanist? An Africana womanist? Do I just want to abandon the label of feminist to these horribly oppressive white women?

I’m still unsure, but a few weeks ago I had a moment wherein I realized that these white feminists who frustrate me with their willingness to oppress other women were not just garbage humans who don’t understand what “feminism” means. (Hint: it’s not the radical idea that women are…

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Not a Review: Mary J. Blige, The London Sessions

Mary J Blige - The London Sessions

Mary J Blige – The London Sessions

Okay, here’s the situation. I live-tweeted my first full listen of The London Sessions the day that it came out. And I was happy with what I heard for the most part. Because it’s Mary and I love Mary. Her voice sounded better than I’ve heard her in a long time, even on tracks that I didn’t like. So I recommended the album to a couple of folks on Twitter, with only a twinge of doubt about my co-sign.

Later that day, other folks tweeted their responses to the album. And it wasn’t as positive as I’d felt during my first listen. I started questioning my taste in music for a second. But the critiques were coming from fellow music lovers whom I respect.

So I listened to it again and again. After a few listens, I noticed which songs I wanted to skip and which ones I wanted to repeat. I started to see the dissenting point of view about the album.

Here’s my thing about The London Sessions. I hate the idea that since Mary J. Blige put out her most successful albums at a time in her life when she was suffering from relationship abuse and drug addiction that she should go back to that state to regain popularity. Like, y’all really want this Black woman to regress and put herself through further pain just to entertain you? SMFH. Let that woman be happy, that’s all she really wanted in the first place.

There are some good songs on The London Sessions. The best of these is the single, “Whole Damn Year”. There are some misses too, where Disclosure and Co. give her impersonal dance tracks to sing over. She slays them, of course, she’s not the Queen of Hip Hop Soul for nothing.

But the heart of Mary’s art has been making the personal universal. There’s not much for her fans to connect to on songs like “My Loving” and “Follow”. Some of the dance tracks belong to the 90’s and probably should’ve stayed there. (I give “Nobody But You” a pass. Four on the floor never goes out of style, right?)

Even the ballads lack the intimacy that’s been the trademark of Blige’s best work. After listening to The London Sessions for a few days, the kindest thing I can say is that the album is a collection of stellar vocal performances. The material itself is less than stellar as a whole. There are a few standout songs (“Therapy”, “Doubt”, the aforementioned “Whole Damn Year”) but the rest of the album consists of  impersonal tracks that any singer could’ve performed – just not as well as Mary has. Thirteen albums into her career, Blige deserves a higher class of material to sink her chops into.

Next time, I won’t recommend an album right after the first listen.

fandom, podcasts, teevee

I bet you think this song is about you…

Abbie and Ichabod

L to R: Actors Tom Mison and Nicole Beharie.

So I was listening to an unofficial Sleepy Hollow podcast which will remain nameless for the time being. (This is a different SH podcast than the one where someone said they didn’t think Ichabod would ever be attracted to Abbie because he comes from a time period where black people were slaves. Which is – ugh – too much fuckery for me to unpack in this blog post.)

They open the show with some boring banter about ratings. Apparently, Sleepy Hollow did not hold all the audience from their lead-in, Gotham. (Cause for panic? Start the letter-writing campaign!)

Then they mention that ratings among men have gone up for the season two premiere. The woman co-host says she knows why that is. The male co-host says that he does too.

The woman co-host says it’s because of Katrina.

The male co-host says it’s because of Abbie.

The woman co-host says, “Really?”

This black woman listener grinds her teeth.

Do I even need to tell you that both hosts are white?

The woman co-host cleans it up a little later by saying both women are beautiful. But the damage has been done. I’m already highly annoyed and switching to another podcast.

We really need more PoC-run fan podcasts and blogs covering shows with PoC leads/diverse casts. Without them, white folks will continue to center themselves in discussions that aren’t even about them.

T'Challa and Ororo
comics, fandom, Geekery, movies

Randumb Thoughts about the News of a Black Panther Movie

  • I really hope Stan Lee ain’t playing. I don’t know how plugged in he is to what Marvel Studios is doing. 

  • Is it too early to start writing T’Challa fan fic? Maybe I could finally get the jump on some of these fast fic writers!
  • Will they find a way to bring Storm into the MCU? Maybe they could get away with it if they didn’t call her Storm, just Ororo? 
  • If that doesn’t work, give me some other awesome, superhero WoC. Please. Because so far, all the women are white, all the blacks are men in the MCU. But some of us are brave!
  • This could be a part of the MCU that’s solely or majority PoC-run. I doubt that many of the Avengers or Loki fangirls will care about all-black Wakanda. 
    T'Challa and Ororo

    T’Challa and Ororo


My new book is here!!


I just bought myself a copy. If you’re interested in learning more about self-care (especially for qpoc), check out this book!

Originally posted on About that Writing thing.:


I overshot my initial publication date but it is done and massive.

Here is my promo blurb:

Brand new and bigger and badder. This is your guide to how to start self caring.This is self care for the rest of us. If you need help, if you need a voice of reason here I am my friend. This is more than 30,000 words of advice about everything from what to do when you’re constipated, to how to manage taking care of your body when your self esteem isn’t so great. Also advice for people with gender feels, some advice about skin care, self health checks and much more.

This is for you, this is for all of us. Regardless of your gender, your body size or shape, if you are able bodied or disabled, if you are chronically ill, if you’re gay or asexual it is for you. Come on…

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Geekery, podcasts

Dust Cast 6 – Lucille Clifton


Bringing back my old solo podcast to celebrate the poetry of Lucille Clifton for Women’s History Month! Only it’s not a solo-cast this time. I’m joined by Melissa from Nerdgasm Noire Network ( We read some of our favorite Clifton poems and talk about why we love her work.

Warning: If you’re squeamish about women cussing and talking about periods, then this ain’t the show for you. To everyone else, enjoy! –